In most cases, the primary objective will be to reach a fair and equitable settlement. For the participants, family law cases are usually financially draining, difficult emotionally and time consuming. Failure to actively pursue and be attentive to out of court settlement possibilities is a mistake that will likely be costly for the client in all of these areas. The attorney can do the client a great service by fully exploring options for amicable resolution. That is our goal.

Having said that, there comes a time in some cases in our practice where settlement appears to be problematic. This is most likely to occur not because the issues are difficult or complicated, but rather because the other party, or perhaps even the other attorney, chooses to take a position that appears to be unreasonably unfair or unsupported by the law, or becomes intransigent on a given issue. The same can also occur if the other side fails to communicate in a reasonable fashion, such as by returning telephone calls or responding to written communications. If the other side fails to communicate, it is of course impossible to cooperatively resolve issues.

Settlement will most always be the preferred method for resolving even difficult cases. Settlement is usually in everyone’s best interests. If litigation is necessary, however, it is then important to be aggressive and steadfast in one’s position. Wavering or exhibiting doubt in litigation will usually only serve to elevate the other party’s confidence and aggressiveness, and the client is then done a disservice.

Finally, Alexander believes that legal professionalism and competence is not inconsistent with being friendly and personable. He believes that his clients should come to find that their attorney’s office is a pleasant place to visit, and that their legal counselor is not a rigid, stiff or unsympathetic legal bureaucrat. Instead, their attorney ought to be known as a friendly, knowledgeable and competent legal professional who can communicate ideas well and have a sense of humor at the same time.